14 Tips for a Good LifeBy: Ronald YipYour life depends to a great extend on your life habits. Your daily life habits determine the quality of your life in terms of health and general well being. Good life habits ensure your body’s ability to combat sickness and stay younger than your real age and feel good and happy. The way we think and behave determines how good a life we will lead. Below are 14 tips to develop better life habits to help you enjoy your good life.
1. Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones
Our lives and the circumstances we live in are largely the result of our own thoughts and beliefs. The sum total of our thoughts, if they are positive, will result in a positive life for us. The reverse is just as true. If we think negatively most of the time, we tend to attract negative circumstances into our life. If you think you can handle a situation, then you can.
2. Use Your Conscious Mind As A Gatekeeper And Do That All The Time
To be precise, our subconscious mind cannot differentiate the good from the bad because our subconscious mind largely represents our mind in its natural state – a mind that is pure and non-judgmental. Be more mindful, be more alert so that you’ll make less mistakes, think before you move and be happier.
3. Open Your Heart to LoveMany people live a life without love and often this kind of life is miserable and meaningless. They cannot love themselves, so they also cannot love anyone else or they even think they don’t deserve love. The sad fact is that without love, no matter what else you have in life, it's not enough. We need to love ourselves unconditionally in order to live a good and full life.
4. Have Faith and Believe in Yourself
Do not doubt yourself, do not fear and always believe in abundance. As long as we have doubt or fear, we will not be able to walk our path. Take the action and walk the path to success and enjoy the fruits you deserve.
5. Be Fully Responsible And Accountable for Your Life
Quite often, when something goes wrong, we have the tendency to find someone or something to blame. This is very unhealthy in deed. I often heard others said “I thought …”. In future avoid say ‘I thought’, a mistake is a mistake, take the responsibility and learn from it. We reap what we sow.
6. Attitude of Gratitude and Altruistic Joy
Adopt a positive attitude, in order to transform ourselves and live a good life. Remember, we bring nothing to this world when we come to life, so the world does not owe us anything. Be happy with what you have and not be unhappy about what you don’t have. Be thankful for whatever small thing or gift you receive.
Altruistic joy is a concept borrowed from the Buddhists. It is a habit of rejoicing in the happiness and success of others. People who have the habit of practicing altruistic joy focus their mind on happiness and success, thus attracting these two things into their own life. In contrast, if we were to have ill-will towards others, we will be attracting more corresponding negative situations into our own life.
7. Setting the Mood For the Day
The first hour of your day strongly determines how your entire day would turn out. If you start off the day grumpily or angrily, you’re likely to end up with a totally grumpy or angry day unless you are alert enough to catch the mood and actively choose to discard it. If you encountered some problem from work, drop it just outside the door before you step into your house. Go to bed early and wake up early. Do not bring issues and problem with you to bed.
8. Specialized Knowledge and / or experienceWhatever it is you want to be, you must acquire the specialized knowledge or skills required for it. Otherwise, your wish is just wishful thinking. You need to make the right decision, make your plan and take the appropriate action.
9. Exercise regularly and sensiblyRegular sensible exercises keep you fit, alert and strong. Regular exercises helps blood circulation and need I say more?
10. Stay Employed or OccupiedEven if you have to take some time off work to adjust to a new situation, try to work part-time, stay occupied or full-time. Keeping a job is a good way to stay active.
11. FoodYou are what you eat. Take a balanced diet, not just eat abundance of what you like and little of other food in order to give your body the balanced amount of nutrition required to maintain a healthy body. Avoid too much hamburger burgers. Plain boiled water is good, cola is not good. Listen to your doctor’s advice if you are sick. For example people with diabetic issues should know what can be taken and what need to be avoided. Avoid heavy food at least 3 hours before going to bed. Avoid alcohol, take more vegetables, more fruits and fish.
12. Helping Others
The more you give the more you will get in return. Those who help others are also helping themselves. For example, if a consultant helps others in need by giving help and information, he is actually gaining trust from whom he helped and eventually people will like to do business with him.
Contributing to society is an important aspect of good life. By helping others within your means to help those who are less fortunate is our obligation to society. If you do that consistently, you will feel good about yourself and your fortune will grow even further because more people will be attracted to you.Money likes to befriend people who already have abundance of it! Give generously to society, let money flow like water. I like what the famous property tycoon of Hong Kong, Mr. Lee Ka Shing said, "no matter how much money a person has, he only take a 3 meals a day and sleep on one bed!".
The fact that relationship whether it is dating or married is hard. Things do not go perfectly right most of the time. Say “I love you” more, and don’t under estimate the ‘power of touch’. Avoid heated quarrel, no one wins a quarrel. The one who thinks he wins a quarrel lose the respect of the other. Put your family first and your career second if you need to make a critical decision. For more tips, click here.
14. Stay In Touch
This is an information age, a digital age, the age of dramatic change. Stay on the Internet, be informed, and don’t lose touch! Visit Good Life regularly, be our friend, make more friends, expand your reach to other good communities, share your thoughts with others and be happy.
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5 Steps to Stress-Guard Your Family
by: Dr. Tony Fiore
Part 1: Recognize the importance of family stress management
Joe and Emily live in Southern California with their three young children. Both work and must commute 2 hours daily on busy freeways, often not getting home until 7:30 PM, exhausted and depleted.
Stressed, they have little patience for the antics of their young children. This results in frequent shouting matches, defiance on the part of the children, and escalating family tension.
As the above illustrates, stress is often an underlying cause of anger in family members.
Sometimes the stress is caused by events outside of the family which family members bring into the home. In other cases, the behavior of family members creates stress and tension in the home. In either case, it becomes a problem when parents find themselves constantly yelling at their children or disagreeing with each other on parenting strategies.
In the meantime their children continue to do what they please—or continue bickering and fighting with each other. When not addressed, stress becomes a major factor in marital unhappiness and, ultimately, divorce.
Stress and family members Joe and Emily both suffered individual stress symptoms. These included fatigue, irritability, angry outbursts, headaches and a discontent with their lives. They began feeling increasingly distant from each other.
Their children were also stressed-out; tired, irritable, cranky, and demanding of attention. They often fought with each other and deliberately did things to get each other in trouble with their parents.
Symptoms of family stress
Just as individuals can become overloaded and stressed-out, so can families. To understand how this can happen, we must remember that families such as Joe and Emily’s are the basic building block of our society (like most societies).
Part 2: How empathy reduces family anger
Families consist of two or more people with shared goals and values and with a long term commitment to each other. Families are supposed to help children learn how to become responsible, successful, happy, and well-adjusted adults. When this no longer happens due to stress, the family unit becomes dysfunctional —as the family no longer serves its purpose fully, easily or consistently.
We can recognize the dysfunctional family by noting that parents and children no longer turn to each other for support, encouragement, guidance, or even love. Such family members may continue to live in the same house—but not feel emotionally attached to each other. They fail to view their family as a warm place to retreat to from the stresses and demands of the outside world.
Stress-Guard your family
Tip #1- Teach your children “resiliency” —the ability to handle stress and respond more positively to difficult events. Help your children practice “bouncing back” by emphasizing the importance of having friends and being a friend; setting new goals and plans to reach them, and believing in themselves.
Tip #2– Commit to stable family rituals
Have a way to leave each other in the morning, and to re-connect in the evening; have a Sunday morning ritual or a Friday night family pizza ritual. Rituals create a sense of security and predictability —both excellent stress buffers.
Tip #3- Model and teach your children conflict resolution skills.
Children learn how to handle conflict by watching their parents. All couples have conflicts; better parents model good conflict resolution skills for their children. These skills include compromise, calm discussion, and focus on problem-solving. Encourage your children to find a way to resolve their own conflicts rather than jumping in and punishing one or the other child whom you think (perhaps, wrongly) is the troublemaker.
Tip #4– Introduce a family “better health” plan
This includes proper nutrition, exercise, and adequate sleep each night. The family may also want to look at time management—and explore how how better time management might reduce both personal and family stress.
Tip #5- Minimize criticism and take time to support each other each day
Excessive criticism is extremely harmful to both children and parents. Emotional support by family members is an extremely important buffer to family stress.
Dr. Tony Fiore is a So. California licensed psychologist, and anger management trainer. His company, The Anger Coach, provides anger and stress management programs, training and products to individuals, couples, and the workplace. Sign up for his free monthly newsletter "Taming The Anger Bee" at www.angercoach.com and receive two bonus reports.
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By Jay HarrisEvery year, an estimated 7 million Americans suffer from cases of food borne illness. Some cases are violent and even result in death. Of course this is commonly known as "food poisoning." The culprit is food that has dangerously high levels of bacteria due to improper cooking or handling.
Food safety is usually taken for granted by the buying public but everyone's attention was recently directed to food poisoning involving some meat that was under cooked. It was determined that the problem never would have happened if the meat had been cooked properly.
E.Coli 0157.H7 is a potent virus, but it can becompletely destroyed when the meat is fully cooked. It is important for consumers to take an all-around safety approach to purchasing, storing and preparing both traditional and new meat and poultry products. Ultimately, consumers and food handlers bear the responsibility for keeping food safe once it leaves the store.
According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, about 85 percent of food borne illness cases could be avoided each year if consumers would handle food properly. The most common food borne illnesses are caused by a combination of bacteria, naturally present in the environment, and food handling mistakes. Ironically, these are also the easiest types of food borne illnesses to prevent.
Proper cooking or processing of raw meat and poultry kills bacteria that can cause food borne illness. When you're out, grocery shop last, take food straight home to the refrigerator. And never leave food in a hot car! Don't buy anything you won't use before the use-by date. Don't buy food in poor condition. Make sure refrigerated food is cold to the touch. Frozen food should be rock-solid.
Canned goods should be free of dents, cracks or bulging lids which can indicate aserious food poisoning threat. The performance and maintenance of your refrigerator is of the utmost importance. Check the temperature of your refrigeratorwith an appliance thermometer. To keep bacteria in check, the refrigerator should run at 40 degrees F; the freezer unit at 0 degrees F.
Generally, keep your refrigerator as cold as possible without freezing your milk or lettuce. When you prepare food, keep everything clean and thaw out any frozen food you plan toprepare in your refrigerator. Take it out of the freezer in advance and place it in the refrigerated section of your refrigerator.
Always wash your hands in hot soapy water before preparing and handling any food as well as after you use the bathroom, change diapers, handle pets, etc. Remember, too, that bacteria can live in your kitchen towels, sponges and dish cloths. Wash them often and replace the dish cloths and sponges you use regularly every few weeks.
Be absolutely sure that you keep all raw meats, poultry and fish and their juices away from other food. For instance, wash your hands, your cutting board and knife in hot soapy water after cutting up the chicken and before dicing salad ingredients. Itis best to use plastic cutting boards rather than wooden ones where bacteria can hide in grooves. Don't take your food out of the freezer and leave it on the kitchen counter to thaw.
This is extremely dangerous since the bacteria can grow in the outer layers of the food before the inside thaws. It is wise to doyour marinating in the refrigerator too.
About the author: Article by Jay Harris of IMI Concepts. Visit his website http://www.imiconcepts.com/directory.html
Ronald Yip, Alpha Info Products Lab